I was asked last week, "so are you just a mum these days"? Somewhat dumbstruck I fumbled to give a response. I don't remember what i said except that it was far too long and far too nice. I have since spent hours trying to conjure up a response that was neither insulted nor defensive.
What I wished i could have done is grabbed a microphone, nodded to a pianist and sang the following. I would have sang loud and proud and hoped that every word sprang saliva into her pity ridden eyes.
Paula.. as always, I really enjoy reading these!! This was perfect!! :)
ReplyDeleteI feel sorry for people who view motherhood and being "just a housewife" as something that requires pity. Is there anything more difficult, time consuming, rewarding, painful, joyful? This is a quote that I have always loved from one of my church leaders:
ReplyDelete"Motherhood is the greatest potential influence either for good or ill in human life. The mother's image is the first that stamps itself on the unwritten page of the young child's mind. It is her caress that first awakens a sense of security; her kiss, the first realization of affection; her sympathy and tenderness, the first assurance that there is love in the world. . . . She who rears successfully a family of healthy, beautiful sons and daughters. . . deserves the highest honor that man can give, and the choicest blessings of God." -David O. McKay
Just a mom nothing! :) Love you.
Sorry for the novel of a comment. Maybe you hit a nerve? :)
Urgh. I do believe that all most women fundamentally want is to be a mother, especially when you reach our age. Look at Jennifer Aniston (if you must) - most women would give up a career and cash in an instant to have what you have. I really think that jealousy was at the root of her question and I really hope she now reads your wonderful, hilarious and popular blog.
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ReplyDeleteI loved this! I too have been much too nice when asked that, and some days feel like I'm less accomplished than my mother friends who do work. It was all made better the other day when my husband, home for all of two hours during the first week of summer break, said to me "I have no idea how you do this all day. I'm so impressed because I'm ready to go back to the office for some peace and quiet!" Ha! To misquote the Peace Corps, motherhood is the hardest job you'll ever love.
ReplyDeleteLove your blog and your honesty that runs through it. Can't wait to read more.
Alysia
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