tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4406173063329064022.post7444314317097581153..comments2024-02-23T00:31:48.729-08:00Comments on Confessions of a Slightly Neurotic New Mother: A Woman's Breast FriendPaulahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05007172201624870451noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4406173063329064022.post-72928413287425792272009-07-25T11:30:58.450-07:002009-07-25T11:30:58.450-07:00Jo, Your comment has tears running down MY face! F...Jo, Your comment has tears running down MY face! Firstly, Mrs. Wilson, huge congrats on the birth of Barney - he is gorgeous - yes, i've stalked you on FB! ;) Your experience brought back that sheer desperation to me - wanting it to end but not wanting to make that decision. It's incredible the pressure that we put on ourselves without the added pressure that is out there. I remember being at my wits end and looking through bottle feeding support groups to see how to do it, what formula etc. There was a comment from a lady seeking advice - she had a heart condition and because of her meds could no longer breastfeed. A lady had posted a response in CAPS that told her to find alternative medication - that breastfeeding is not only our right but our duty - her child's life is more important now she is a mother. WOW!<br />I hope that our stories can provide support for other women that have struggled or are struggling. I think that a negative experience here can compound those baby blues and lead to PPD because women are embarrassed to speak out about it for fear of being labeled a bad mum. <br />Finally, well done on doing 6 months. It gives me hope that next time might be a more positive experience! I love you, Jo. Keep in touch xPaulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05007172201624870451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4406173063329064022.post-9367534380612916722009-07-24T10:05:00.991-07:002009-07-24T10:05:00.991-07:00I miss you immensely right now. And I'm so pro...I miss you immensely right now. And I'm so proud of you.Mia Morelandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02007904240564485408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4406173063329064022.post-48812232572094569672009-07-24T02:10:10.200-07:002009-07-24T02:10:10.200-07:00Hi Paula, it's Jo Shales (Jo Wilson now!) here...Hi Paula, it's Jo Shales (Jo Wilson now!) here. I've just read your breastfeeding blog and as a recent first time mother I have tears streaming down my face as you have managed to articulate what I have been trying to say for the past 11 months. When Barney was born last August he breastfed fine straight away and I felt so pleased we were managing it. However, after a week something went very wrong and suddenly breastfeeding went from being an enjoyable bonding experieince to one of absolute agony. My nipples bled at every feed, Barney threw up (my) blood after every feed meaning I was literally constantly washing blood-stained baby clothes, I was feeding every 2 hours and spending the time in between in floods of tears dreading the next feed becuase of the absolute agony I was experiencing, I cannot describe it. I fought constantly with my husband who kept telling me to quit, but I felt so much pressure from the NCT, friends & my mum who convinced me to persevere. At times I felt so low that I wanted to run out into the street and get hit by a car as I thought that if I was in a hospital bed recovering from a car accident I would have an excuse not to breastfeed and nobody would think the worse of me for it. It sounds crazy now but at the time it seemed to make sense. I did persevere and after 6 weeks of what can only be described as hell it did get better. I breastfed Barney until he was nearly 6 months old, and am glad I did but a large part of me thinks I should have quit during that awful first few weeks as I have no real positive memories of the first few weeks with my baby which should have been an enjoyable if exhausting time. <br />It is so refreshing to hear from someone who admits it was hard and they couldn't do it, I have met so so many mums who just can't understand how breastfeeding can be anything but amazing.<br />Thank you for making me realise I am not alone! Next time if I have the same problems again I will switch to formula sooner, and stand up for myself among those hoards of 'breast is best' mothers.<br />Lots of love to you and gorgeous little Olivia xxxxBarney Wilsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11167691369747710944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4406173063329064022.post-86001794458448167342009-07-23T19:47:50.388-07:002009-07-23T19:47:50.388-07:00((((HUGS)))) Next time around, no matter WHAT you ...((((HUGS)))) Next time around, no matter WHAT you choose, will be better. Promise.loliachttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01495933566981097426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4406173063329064022.post-75654707184421175672009-07-23T14:58:48.775-07:002009-07-23T14:58:48.775-07:00Good for you for puting this story into words and ...Good for you for puting this story into words and coming to terms with how you pictured it would be vs. the reality. If ONLY we could control everything, right? X TanyaTanyaLeahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00323650937316017384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4406173063329064022.post-20881710627047497352009-07-23T13:59:39.540-07:002009-07-23T13:59:39.540-07:00i love you. lactation consultants are, by and lar...i love you. lactation consultants are, by and large, evil. i have NEVER EVEN ONCE had a friend tell me their lactation consultant was lovely. mine sure wasn't. and as you know, i had one dreadful nursing experience and one delightful one. and both of my kids are PERFECT.<br /><br />i. love. you.rebecca mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00668766843945635220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4406173063329064022.post-84505005072502952762009-07-23T12:42:45.503-07:002009-07-23T12:42:45.503-07:00Go on sister! I love it love it love it...
Maybe ...Go on sister! I love it love it love it...<br />Maybe you should send Mary a link :)Jadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14068827303344750197noreply@blogger.com